My friend Linda came down for stamp club last night and we were at the house and I got a call from a number I didn't recognize. I didn't answer it of course, but they called back. I then got a text from my daughter that said "I was in a wreck, tried to call, phone going dead". I called the number back and sure enough it was her that was trying to call me. I immediately rushed to where she was. She was shaken up but okay. Evidently there was an SUV that stopped suddenly and said there was a car in front of her that stopped and turned and she had to slam on her brakes, the guy in the little truck behind her said he barely was able to stop in time, my daughter wasn't able to stop in time and hit the truck that made it ram the back of the SUV.
So of course the 3 car pile up is the fault of my daughter who is on my insurance. I was so relieved that she was okay until she started talking hateful to me. My friend Linda got an ear full while I vented my frustrations and feelings about being treated like chit every time my daughter does something wrong and it some how becomes my fault.
Everything has calmed down now and we are trying to figure out what to do about the car situation and right now I am shaking my fists at stress and saying "BRING IT ON BITCH!! JUST BRING IT ON BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT GONNA GET ME DOWN!!"
Tonight I am having a few friends over for a cookout and swimming. I think a few cold beers are in order and maybe I can relax and just enjoy myself for a little while. Saturday I plan on getting some paper work done and then Sunday spending the day out of town with a friend. Yep...I deserve a little rest and relaxation and by golly I am going to take it and enjoy it!!
I can just see you shaking your fists and giving stress you know what!!! LOL! You go girl - if anyone deserves a little rest and relaxation YOU DO!! Hang tough! Things have to start looking UP, don't they?ReplyDelete
Hang in there Okie. Remember that parents aren't doing their job if their kids don't "hate" them. Of course they really don't mean it. She has to have someone other than herself to blame.ReplyDelete
Enjoy yourself with your real friends this weekend and maybe the sun will shine on you tomorrow.
When it rains, it pours. here's hoping things start loooking up for you. Always remember to take care of yourself. Glad you are back to your blog, I missed your regular entries, craft related or not. Crafting will come back to you, don't stress about that. Enjoy your weekend!ReplyDelete
Thank God for her being OK. I remember the first accident my son was in. His truck rolled down an embankment. He also was Ok. I needed a stiff drink that night and I'm not a drinker.ReplyDelete
Linda in Stanwood
You are NOT alone in this!! This sounds just like what happened to me about a year ago when my daughter did the same thing (rear-ended a car and pushed it into the car in front of here) We run to help her, leaving dinner on the table and upon our arrival she started yelling at me (in front of the cop) about how she TOLD DAD there was something wrong with her brakes, that they didn't work very well in the rain (WTF?? Its called reducing your speed to allow for road conditions!!!) So, out of my mouth came "Ya know, you are 19 so the cop can't take me to jail for child abuse when I slap you!" To which she reponded, "No, but I will press charges for assault!"ReplyDelete
Oh the memories!!! (I'd like to personally thank Okie for reminding me of this incident where we stood out in the rain at the accident scene in the dark!Then, we had to help the girl my lovely daughter rear-ended to wire her hood and trunk shut because she wanted to drive her car home *still in the rain).
It took a while but I now almost laugh at the whole situation. This was her 2nd accident in a year and so the insurance company ended up excluding her from our household and *dang it* she had to get her own insurance coverage from that point forward. Kids! Gotta love them since we can't shoot them!!!
If it is true bad things come in threes then this is 3. So enough is enough. If it helps I have been in so many situations with one of my daughters and been treated like this. You are not alone. It doesn't make you a bad mom. It will get better and they do grow up. Will continue to pray for you. Big hugs!ReplyDelete
That's right Okie!! You make that stress your be-yotch! You are so funny. Your sassiness and sense of humor are definitely plusses in times like these. Sending you strong stress-butt-kicking vibes girl!!ReplyDelete
Oh how do I get on your friends list??? Beer and a pool plus Casino and a Scrapper to boot! (Scrapper as in one tough lady! ha ha..and a nifty crafter) Just can't find quality friends like this where I live :( ... my pool stays empty but my fridge usually has a Corona or 2. Not to mention my Big Green Eggs can whip a mean BBQ! :0ReplyDelete
Hi Okie, I am one of those who has never met you but loves your stlyle of writing and your paper creations! Hang in there girl. Sometimes we just have to let the kiddos find their own way in life..later she will say I should of listened to mom! Hopefully she will see the light soon. In the mean time YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE..have fun this weekend!ReplyDelete
Good that she's OK; but... "Bugger". (((hugs))) Enjoy your weekend and worry about sorting everything when you get back. Jude.xReplyDelete
When it rains it pours but it looks to me like you hit the monsoon season! The only thing I can say is that... this too will pass.. I have to say I sent a lovely young daughter to college 4 years ago and I am not sure where this snippy/snappy alter ego girl that moved back home until she finds a job daughter came from. I keep telling myself that if I hang around long enough my sweet daughter is going to return.ReplyDelete
OMG! I can't even think of anything helpful to say. My mantra this year has been, "this too shall pass." You can borrow it if you want;) Hope the weekend goes well.ReplyDelete
Dont you just love it when our children do stupid chit and blame us like we were there and made it happen, so been there and done that. I think I would need shots not beer, hang in there.ReplyDelete
Wow, talk about the old saying when it rains it pours. Sounds like you need an umbrella for that little black cloud over your head! I hope you have a fabulous time this weekend. Stress doesn't know what it's up against when it faced off with you. hugs, eileenReplyDelete
Okie, so glad your daughter is okay; and the dust will all settle soon enough.ReplyDelete
I feel your pain. Mine is 19 and they think they know everything.ReplyDelete
Have loads of fun this weekend and take care of yourself.
OMG it sounds like you are living my past life! If it is any help, it does get better. My DD is now the mother of a 16 yo DD. I keep telling her payback is a Bi*&h!ReplyDelete
She tells everyone that the reason baby girls are so cute is so they survive!!
I'm glad no one was hurt. Have your ME time and relax and enjoy.
You just shake that fist until you feel better! I can really feel your pain as I feel like every time I stand up, a HUMUNGO hand slaps me back down and then i hear a rumbley laugh. But darn it, I'm not backing down either.ReplyDelete
Okie, At-a-girl!!! Take the time and enjoy! Your daughters frontal lob in her brain will develop soon. Than she will become your best friend. I've raised two daughters, now they have become not only daughters but my friends also. When I went through what you are now with my oldest (a time I thought would never end but finally it did)a friend told me that. Our daughters think (and we did too) they have all of the answers just because they are 18 years old. Anyway just remmber frontal lobe and smile your Okie smile (you know the one) and give her a hug.ReplyDelete
You have been on my mind a lot lately Shirley, even before I read your last post. I just had a feeling you could use a friendly smile or hug or shoulder ... or even a punching bag!ReplyDelete
I have no insightful words of wisdom, but I do send lots of positive thoughts and prayers your way, that things turn around for you soon. Enough with the stress already, it's time for some good stuff to come your way. Till then, stay strong GF, and don't forget, if you need an ear ... I'm here!
You go girl! And when she doesn't have a car for a long time because she can't pay for it to be repaired she'll be a different person.ReplyDelete
Also, ignoring tirades are hard but one word answers are best sometimes. Arguing fuels her fire.
As Dorie would say 'Keep swimming, keep swimming, keep swimming'!(From Finding Nemo)ReplyDelete
And this is why I love your blog . . . you are open, honest and REAL! It's actually nice to know that things aren't rosey all the time, like on other blogs.ReplyDelete
I hate that all of this is happening to you, and all at once! You seem like one hell of a strong lady so I have no doubt you will get through this. Keep your head up! This "chit" shall pass!! ;)
Okie, I have to say that I like your attitude through all these problems. You remind me of Lt. Dan in Forest Gump riding out the storm.ReplyDelete
Remember the St. Francis prayer and try not to let the things you cannot change be a burden.
and my favorite from Scarlett O'Hara "Tomorrow is another day!"
Thanks for the inspiration,
Aren't kids wonderful. Sometimes not. Hang in there, Okie. I know how tough it can be when things keep going wrong. Enjoy you self time!ReplyDelete
I feel your pain. My kids Dad was an addict. Meth and alcohol. He cleaned up for a while and got on the liver transplant list. He couldn't hang in there and died drunk behind the wheel. I felt your same guilt. It is horrible. I believe, only from experience because I don't know you or your Daughter and I'm not a professional that you have over compensated with your Daughter. She is angry with her Dad no matter what she says and lashes out at you because she has no body else to take it out on. She loves you and knows how much you love her and that you will never leave her. My kids and I suffered emotional pain that will stay with us forever. The two of you need each other more than ever right now and the problem is neither of you realize it. My kids (both girls) took a few years to realize it also, it was tough but now we have such a close bond that nothing, Nothing comes between us. Okie, it will work out be strong, be patient. She is hurting as much as you are. Remember she called you first, she leans on you. I know this is hard to hear. If you need an extra ear, I'm always hear to listen. Kim MReplyDelete
You take all the R&R you can get.The sun will come out soon and if it doesn't open another beer.LOLReplyDelete
I am so sorry that you have had so many stressful events in such a short time. But I do admire the way you are standing up to it. You remind me of Lt. Dan in the Forest Gump movie riding out the storm and letting it know that he could take it!ReplyDelete
One of my favorite sayings when things aren't going well is from another movie. I quote Scarlett O'Hara, "Tomorrow is another day!"
I hope your tomorrow brings you joy and happiness.
Thanks for the inspiration,
I'm so sorry about all your stress. It just seems like when it rains, it pours. It's been like this the last 2 months around my house. Sorry your daughter has had such a time dealing with life. It really will do her good when she has to start paying for things on her own and realize things have repsonsibilites attached to them. I had to buy my own car and pay my own insurance before I was allowed to get my drivers license. It really helped me be more responsible. (I'm fighting this with my oldest now. I'm not giving up!) You'll be in my prayers !ReplyDelete
Adult kids bring adult sized problems! I remember when my kids were little if I did A+B+C I would get D. Boy have I been humbled! Now with 3 grown and gone and 2 left at home my understanding of unconditional love has a whole new meaning. And.... I am less shockable:)ReplyDelete